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CODE OF ETHICAL CREMATION PRACTICES
Our Cremation Promise…

  • We abide by a process of checks and balances throughout the cremation process, to assure our professional quality and your peace of mind.
  • Your loved one never leaves our care or custody, all cremations are done on premise by our trained staff.
  • All human remains and cremated remains are treated with the utmost dignity and respect at all times.
  • Our in house identification system is used for all cremations.
  • Our crematory is used for humans only and all cremations are done individually.  
  • We promise total confidentiality, we do not share information about any family we serve or their loved one, unless it is legally required or with prior approval from the next of kin.
  • All cremations are done within the scope of all federal, state and local laws, rules and regulations.
  • All families are given the option to witness the beginning or any other part of the cremation process, for their loved one.
  • We promise to present all the options and cremations plans we offer, to every family.
  • We allow the option to celebrate the life of their loved in a manner that fits their desires, beliefs and budget.
  • Crematory inspections are always welcomed, we have nothing to hide.
  • We are members of CANA, the Cremation Association Of North America and we abide by all their service codes.

 
Consider Family in Cremation

Disposition Options With Cremation

Explaining Cremation to a Child

Understanding Cremation Options







CONSIDER FAMILY IN CREMATION




Those who say--whether seriously or in jest--"Just cremate me and throw me out!" don't realize the burden this places on family members. Direct disposal of cremated remains without a funeral or memorialization of any kind can cause serious emotional problems for survivors.



An executive of the Forum for Death Education tells of one patient under therapy as a result of scattering the cremated remains of a loved one. She had no focal point for her grief until he suggested she obtain a niche at a local mausoleum and place some memento of the loved one within.



In day-to-day contact with bereaved families, many cemetarians have noticed signs of severe emotional stress among the survivors in instances of cremation without memorialization and without funerals.



In some cases, such problems may take the form of delayed reaction many months later and are more apt to come to the attention of the medical community or clinical psychologists than to the layman or the general public.



Many psychiatrists feel that the funeral serves a very real need for the survivors. One of them stated that the primary purpose of the funeral is to fulfill the need for grieving for the living and that this need goes unfulfilled for many in our culture.



The result, in many cases, is that months or years later people require psychiatric treatment for severe depression.



In suffering a loss, the traditional rites of passage and memorialization can be beneficial in helping individuals pass through the stages of grief.



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MEMORY TIME WITH A “FUNERAL CELEBRANT”

Today, many people are not members of, or participating with a formal religious group or organized religion. Many may still believe in God or a higher power, but for their own personal reasons, are not affiliated with a formal religion. Many others have their own private beliefs, but still wish to celebrate a life that has been lived.


This can be accomplished through a gathering in a park, the funeral home or some other setting. A “Memory Time” can be planned with a “Funeral Celebrant” acting as the coordinator or host of the event. During this time, favorite music of the family can be played, poetry or other readings can be recited, personal stories or eulogies can be shared, a personalized DVD of favorite family photos can be made and this can be followed by a meal or other type of gathering.

The funeral celebrant will actually sit with family and friends and plan the entire memorial, based on stories that are shared and favorite music and reading and poetry is discussed. The funeral celebrant is trained to weave a personalized memory together to help the family celebrate their loved one’s life and begin to move on with their grief journey. The celebrant also has the resources to create a meaningful video tribute to tell the story through pictures and music.

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DISPOSITION OPTIONS WITH CREMATION



With cremation, you actually have more choices for a final resting place than with a typical earth burial.



Interment

With interment, you can choose burial in the family plot, church garden, or other memorial site. You can also choose a columbarium, which is an arrangement of niches, indoor or outdoor, with memorial identity plaques. This is also sometimes referred to as an urn garden.



Graveside Services

You can choose to have memorial prayers and religious rites performed at the graveside with cremation, just as you can with a typical earth burial. You can also choose to have a marker or monument as a permanent testimony to the life and the history of the deceased, and as a place of pilgrimage for loved ones to visit.



With cremation, you also have other options that aren't available with a typical earth burial.



Scattering the Cremated Remains
Options with scattering remains include scattering within a memorial garden or cemetery; with the comfort of identifying marker, plaque, or memorial book entry to memorialize the loved one; or over water or in some other site loved by the deceased.



You can also do partial scattering, in which some of the cremated remains are scattered and the rest are retained in an urn for interment.

Multiple Urns
Cremated remains can also be placed in two or more urns. This offers the comfort of interment near more than one family member when families are divided by great distances. 



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EXPLAINING CREMATION TO A CHILD


When a deceased family member or friend is cremated or already has been cremated, your child may want to know what cremation is. In answering your child's questions about cremation, keep your explanation of what cremation involves simple and easy to understand.



In explaining cremation to your child, avoid using words that may have a frightening connotation such as "fire" and "burn." Instead, in a straightforward manner, tell your child that the deceased body, enclosed in a casket or container, is taken to a place called a crematory where it goes through a special process that reduces it to small particles resembling fine gray or white sand. Be sure to point out that a dead body feels no pain.



Let your child know that these cremated remains are placed in a container called an urn and returned to the family. If cremation has already taken place and the container picked up, you may want to show it to the child. Because children are curious, your child may want to look at the contents.



If your child makes such a request, look at them yourself first so that you can describe what they look like. Share this with your child. Then let the child decide whether to proceed further.



If possible, arrange for a time when you and your child can be with the body before cremation is carried out. If handled correctly, this time can be a positive experience for the child. It can provide an opportunity for the child to say "good-bye" and accept the reality of death. However, the viewing of the body should not be forced. Use your best judgment 
on whether or not this should be done.



Depending on the age of your child, you may wish to include him or her in the planning of what will be done with the cremated remains. Before you do this, familiarize yourself with the many types of cremation memorials available. Some of the many options to consider include burying the remains in a family burial plot, interring them in an urn garden that many cemeteries have, or placing the urn in a columbarium niche.



Defined as a recessed compartment, the niche may be an open front protected by glass or a closed front faced with bronze, marble, or granite. (An arrangement of niches is called a columbarium, which may be an entire building, a room, a bank along a corridor, or a series of special indoor alcoves. It also may be part of an outdoor setting such as a garden wall.) 



Although your child may not completely understand these or other options for memorialization, being involved in the planning helps establish a sense of comfort and understanding that life goes on even though someone loved has died.



If you incur any difficulties in explaining death or cremation to your child, you may wish to consult a child guidance counselor who specializes in these areas.



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UNDERSTANDING CREMATION OPTIONS


There are some issues to consider when deciding between cremation and burial. Families may encounter some discomfort with cremation and resistance from family members for a variety of personal reasons.



Will your family be comfortable with cremation? Some family members are disturbed at the thought of death itself, much less cremation, which many perceive as a cold and uninvolved process. They may resist your wishes when the time comes. Address it with your family now if you want to be cremated. You can put their unease to rest, and have peace of mind knowing your wishes will be carried out.



Direct cremation is another option--many people request to eliminate "all the bother of funeral services" for family members. Funeral services aren't provided for the deceased--they're there to help support and comfort the living. Take time to consider family and friends and their need to work through the grieving process before you make this decision.



Scattering requests should be given careful consideration as well. Emptying the urn of all that remains of a loved one can be a traumatic experience--carefully consider the feelings of the family in deciding whether or not to do this.



Another factor you should consider when deciding whether or not to choose cremation include the fact that crematories are operated by dedicated people with great respect for the deceased.



For purposes of safety and dignity, it's generally required that bodies are cremated in a rigid container such as a casket or other container approved for cremation.



Restrictions on cremation are different from state to state, even from one cemetery to the next. Depending on the final resting place you choose, requirements may include an urn, urn vault, and other items. Making your choices now can help your family down the road. In most cases, cremation satisfies federal clean air requirements.



You should check to ensure that all personal property has been removed from the deceased at the funeral home and returned to the family or executor unless otherwise instructed. Families should also be mindful of valuables and mementos placed with the loved one. For more on the cremation process, and what happens before, during, and after, visit the cremation process information on Funeralplan.com provided by the Cremation Association of North America.


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